I know I’ve said several times that I am not a dating/relationship expert. There are very few things that I consider myself an expert on, but an area that I do excel in beyond normal expectations is…kissing. Yep, I’m sayin it. I’m a kissing guru. A god. Top notch. Best in my field. I don’t wanna brag, but if they had an award for best kisser ever, I’d win it.
So how do my luscious lips and seductive smooch style help out my digital nerds? Well, because I’m such a good freakin kisser, I believe that I am also a good judge of fellow liplockers. I’ve taught various fellow friends the secrets of how to kiss a woman right (which have paid off BIG time for them), and I am now sharing my two best tips with you…my favorite nerds in the world. So…I guess here’s my question to you guys. Wanna make out?
After 6 months of anticipation, Slugs makes another video! She comes to you from her bedroom to share some exciting news about her blog, her new podcast (X&Y) and then shamelessly begs for emails (which can be sent to her at: firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com.)
Now, I know what you're all thinking, where did all the color go? Well, in her creative artsyness, she decided to come to you in classic film noir form.....or her walls are off white and it just makes her look yellow.
So, be excited...because as horrible as Ike is at technology, Slugs is even worse...however she did manage to record a video, and then post it the next day. And it really wasn't that hard. Just sayin...
Thanks for all of your dating advice so far, but I have a question. I’m really into this girl at work and I’ve been doing everything I can to let her know. I’ve followed your advice and have done everything. I help her when she needs it. I’ve gone over to her place a half hour away just to replace a light fixture. A lot of times I’ve helped her with her crappy car. I listen to her, always am there when she needs to talk, and I’ve been there for her whenever she needs me. She always seems really into me, but when I finally asked her out on a real date she said she wasn’t ready to date. Her ex boyfriend really messed her up. But then, last week, I heard her talking to another co-worker and it sounded like she was talking about a date that she recently went on. When I asked her about it she said that she’s just kind of dating around to get over him, and doesn’t want to seriously start seeing anybody, but she really likes me. So, my question is, what else can I do? I want her to know that I’m not one of those guys that’s going to treat her bad and I think she’s just scared to date me because she doesn’t want to get hurt. Any advice?
-Ron from Arkansas.
Aw Ron. I’m going to tell you what your friends obviously aren’t telling you.
So it’s a Friday night. I’m on my way to my newest dating adventure with a cute CPA that I met online. Now, I know, CPA doesn’t exactly scream exciting to most people, but being the nerd lover I am, a big brain is pretty darn sexy. Plus, a man’s work isn’t his life, right? Mr. CPA was also a marathon runner and self proclaimed adrenaline junkie. Sounded pretty well rounded to me. So after a few (slightly awkward) phone calls (which, ok, were really boring but I gave him the benefit of the doubt that he was probably just bad on the phone. It’s happened before. BTW, listen to the latest episode of X&Y to actually hear a conversation I had with Mr. CPA!) I agreed to meet him for dinner and drinks.
A few months ago I had a friend who was terrified to start a new relationship. He had been through some tough times of women taking advantage of him, women playing with his emotions and women being downright bitches to him. He was seeing a very sweet, genuine girl, and yet, his fear of repeating a past relationship was seriously holding him back.
I just wanted to shake him. Here he is, with an actual good girl in front of him and he’s about to blow it because he’s had a rough past. No matter what I said, I just couldn’t get through to him. I told him she was sweet. Yeah but… I told him that she was the real deal. Yeah but… I told him that he’d probably regret it if he blew this. Yeah but… Ugh! I was frustrated. He had a million excuses to what “might” happen and why it “might” not work out. He had already built up in his head some elaborate story of heartbreak and betrayal and they hadn’t even been out on their second date. I knew I wouldn’t get through to him with my normal psychobabble about having to trust and let go, so I finally just asked him:
So, I've decided to start making my titles more ambiguous to see if Eric actually reads my posts before writing a quick summary with the link on facebook. Hee he. Oh Eric. I do love to find ways to make your day a little bit harder.
But anyways, I got a very interesting question the other day, and I actually believe this guy's problem to be more common than most people think...
I have this knack for attracting women that have husbands/boyfriends. I don’t look for them, but I’m polite, friendly, and playful with everyone and for some reason these girls decide that I’m perfect to fulfill whatever is lacking in their relationships. It goes from simple, fun banter to them saying things like “we’d have been such a great couple…” then the sexting starts. Why do these women zero in on me and why don’t I have such luck with single girls? I have no interest in being the “other guy” but I always seem to end up heading that way. I want a relationship yet seem to be attracting the wrong women. Any advice?
-The Unavoidable Other Guy
Oh wow mister other guy. This is probably going to be the easiest advice for me to give, and the hardest for you to take. And I give this advice having been in your situation several times.